DAY 373 - CHANGE, CHANGE, CHANGE

Day 373

So we have been living in our new house for a little over a year and a half. I never thought I would say that but I LOVE not living in the middle of the city anymore.  I hadn't realized how,  for 15 years, I had been surrounded by concrete and dirt. Everything around me used to be a different shade of grey (no reference to the novel!!!!!!!!). There weren't many trees and there was a lot of pollution.

Now, when I open up my curtains in the morning and look outside, I see green, red, yellow, purple. I see flowers and trees. The scenery is so apeasing to the eye. I never realized how concrete agressed me in some way. Living in a "suburban-like" neighbourhood is not like living in the country - the nature is somewhat tamed- but there is still lots of animal life. We hear and see different types of birds. There is even a family of hares that visits our backyard once in a while. And, for the first time in my life, I have a vegetable garden. I planted tomatoes, cucumbers, lettuce, onions, red peppers, string beans, strawberries, raspberries, etc.

My husband and I were so scared of moving. We loved being able to walk everywhere. We enjoyed being close to the action, living a stone throw away from the best coffee shops and restaurants in Montreal.  We definitely left something we loved. But what we got in return is even better... who would have thought?

Change is sometimes unavoidable, sometimes chosen, but no matter if it is imposed or not, it is always an opportunity to evolve, progress, go forward. It is very scary to leave something you love for the unknown. And the truth is, we couldn't really imagine how we would feel living away from the heart of the city. It took us so much time to finally make the move.  But in the end, we are so happy with our decision. As scary as change may seem, it also pushes you to experience life in a different way.  Staying in your comfort zone might be reassuring, but it also tends to keep you from experiencing everything life has to offer.

"Change is the essence of life. Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become."

Reinhold Niebuhr

DAY 372 - EARLY BED, EARLY RISE MAKES A MAN (AND A WOMAN), HEALTHIER, HAPPIER AND WISE

Day 372

Today, I was listening to a radio show.  They were talking about a new study conducted by researchers at the University of Toronto which suggests that early birds are happier and healthier than night owls. The study found that people who preferred the evening were more prone to “social jet lag”, in which a person’s biological clock becomes "out of sync” with social activities.   As a result morning people often felt more awake, more alert, happier and more motivated to tackle challenges.  They also had a stronger immune system.

They also found that as people age, they tend to wake up earlier and so that older people were happier... In fact, researchers found that most become morning people by age 60; by that time, just 7% of people are still night owls. In contrast, only 7% of young adults are early birds.

It is true that since my crazy 20's - actually they weren't that crazy - I have become more of an early bird, and I am definitely happier.  Is it because I wake up earlier, or is it due to the fact that, as you age, you become wiser, you know yourself better and you know what you want - and don't want - out of life?

Happiness is a fascinating topic.  Researchers and philosophers have long been trying to find the one ingredient that would lead to happiness. Unfortunately, the variables are too numerous to be able to determine a 'one-recipe' fits all formula.  Everone and every life experience is unique. For instance, although meditation is said to greatly improve wellbeing, I know many people who are unable to meditate!  It doesn't seem to fit with their personality.  It actually has the opposite effect... It makes them nervous!

I guess that, in the end, the only person who can draw down the list of 'happiness- inducing'  habits is yourself, whether science says waking up early, meditation or yoga lead to more happiness or not. The real challenge, however, is to keep choosing happiness evey day. It is so easy to get distracted and lose focus. It takes determination and discipline... It often means getting rid of behaviours and habits you have had for years, which is not an easy task.   But since we only have one life to live (maybe more, but not with the same name!!!!), isn't worth it to try and make it as happy as we can?

DAY 371 - I BELIEVE!

Day 371

In the past few months, I have reflected a lot on religious belief and faith and its place in leading a meaningful life.  Since I was very young, I've often had sudden moments of blank incomprehension:  "Why are we here?  What does it all mean?  Where do we go after we die?"  Questions many people ask themselves and answer according to their religious beliefs.

Unfortunately, the answers my Catholic upbringing gave never satisfied me entirely.  I would ask

myself: "Why would Catholics be right?  Why would everyone else be wrong? If a guy would walk the streets today claiming he is the son of God, would I believe it?"

I believe faith and happiness are intrinsically linked - although, some people I know seem content living withe the belief that life ends when you die, that there is nothing more nothing less -  so I have always envied people who were able to adhere to a religion with profound conviction. I was never able to.

Earlier this year, one of my colleagues spoke to me about a guy named Edgar Cayce.  He lived at the beginning of the 20th century in the U.S.  He was called the Virginia Prophet.  I read a lot about his life and work.  He was born in a family of farmers but quickly developed the ability to go into a trance and have access to an incredible amount of information, first about people's ailments, prescribing remedies,  and then about many other issues, including past civilizations, reincarnation, etc.  It was as though he had access to a universal knowledge. Ok, I know, I' m sounding like a real cult victim adhering to some crazy esoteric beliefs!!!!!!  But reading about this guy helped me form my own set of beliefs.   It actually crystallized ideas that had slowly began to form in my mind.  Namely the conviction that the soul lives on...

Maybe faith is not essential for everyone's happiness.  Maybe some people are able to live in the present moment without questioning themselves about the past, the future or the meaning of life.  But it was important for me...

What about you? Do you believe faith is important in order to achieve happiness?

DAY 370 - HAPPY TO BE BACK

Day 370

I have totally been slacking off with my blog since I moved into my new house about a year ago. Writing about happiness in the middle of the move felt like a burden.  And as it is when you get out of any kind of routine, it has been really hard for me to get back into it.  Am I going to write every day, once a week, once a month? I don' t know.  All I do know is that somehow I will reach 500 days! I just don't know how long it will take!

However, you should know that  I haven't stopped thinking about happiness and feeding my soul with thoughts and inspiring readings.  I have also been going through the days trying to apply what I have learned and researched about happiness. What I have found is that it takes dedication, discipline and strength to always be on top of things.  With life's constant hurdles, keeping your head above water is sometimes challenging and it is through daily or even hourly effort (happy hour???!!!) that you can achieve wellbeing. That means fighting laziness, inaction and negative thoughts at all times in order to make the choices that will help you go in the right direction.

This morning, I got up and felt like writing again.  And I must say that as I am writing this post, I feel as though I am reconnecting with a long lost friend! That sounds sappy, doesn't it????  Well sappy or not, I have to say I am happy to be back!!!!

DAY 369 - THE ALKALINE DIET

Day 369

There is a new fashionable diet going around in Hollywood, one that promises, as others do, to make you lose weight and keep you healthy; the alkaline diet.  Jennifer Aniston and Gweneth Paltrow both follow this new diet.

The theory behind is that all the food we eat, after being digested, absorbed, and metabolized, is either alkalinizing or acidifying.   Grains, fish, meat, poultry, cheese, milk, and salt all produce acid while most vegetables and some fruit have an alkinizing effect.

Our blood is slightly alkaline, with a normal pH level of between 7.35 and 7.45. Alkaline proponents believe that our diet should reflect this pH level and be slightly alkaline.   Having a diet high in acid-producing food is believed to disrupt the pH balance and promote the loss of essential minerals such as potassium, magnesium, calcium, and sodium, as the body tries to restore equilibrium.  Eating too many acidifying foods would also deplete the body of energy.

As a matter of fact, a research conducted by the University College of London suggests tha people who ate plenty of alkaline vegetables, fruit and fatty fish actually had a lower risk of depression.  Furthermore. according to Dr. Robert O. Young, Director of Research at the pH Miracle Living Center, "depression is not something you get, it is something you do with your lifestyle and dietary choices. When you choose a raw alkaline diet with daily exercise you remove the dietary and metabolic wastes from your body that can make you sick, tired and depressed."

I'm an advocate of balance in life and I usually don't buy into fads without researching appropriately.  I have to say, however, that this approach seems to make sense.  Anyway, it recommends to eat plenty of fruit and vegetables and no oone can deny the importance of such dietary choices.  It might not be easy to respect the 70% alkaline, 30% acidic proportion recommended by the diet, but it's certainly worth trying to make a point of including more alkaline foods in our diet, whether it be for physical health or mental wellbeing.

Here is a list of alkaline versus acidic food:

http://www.acidalkalinediet.com/Alkaline-Foods-Chart.htm

DAY 368- HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Day 368

First of all, I would like to wish all of my readers a happy new year, filled with new challenges, love, health and whatever else makes you happy! 

I love this time of year because it allows me to put things behind and start over. I feel a sense of renewal as though the future holds an immensity of possibilities, of opportunities...

On my first day back at work, I asked my students if they had made resolutions for 2013.  Well, many of them told me that they have had become cynical about resolutions.  Many don't make any because they don't feel they could actually stick to them.  And they are not wrong... statistics show that most people give up on their resolutions before the end of January ...yayks!!!!

And it made me wonder about human nature.  In theory, we all know what's good for us.... exercising, not smoking, eating healthy, being zen, meditating... so why don't we just do all of those things.  Why is it that implementing a change in your life, such as exercising for instance, requires such an effort? Shouldn't it be simple... you just go to the gym or use your home exerciser and do it!  I think it has to do with the element of pleasure.  Immediate pleasure versus long term well-being!  Human beings are conditioned to avoid pain and seek pleasure. Hedonism is what drives us to do those things.  Exercising is not that pleasurable... But, no pain, no gain.

So, the solution, if you want to implement any big change in your life is probably to make it pleasurable, maybe by joining a gym with a friend or registering to a physical activity you enjoy.

I have made plenty of resolutions for 2013 (exercising, eating healthy, investing in my friendships, being creative, etc.).  Some I began in 2012, some are brand new, but no matter if I didn't keep all of my resolutions in 2012, I am still starting the year with the belief that I WILL achieve the ones I have made for 2013. And if I don't, well, there's always 2014!

DAY 367 - BECOMING MORE CREATIVE

Day 367

A couple of weeks ago, on his facebook page, my cousin posted a link to a talk on creativity by comedian John Cleese.  I watched it and, of course, it made me think about the relationship between creativity and happiness.  When we think about the greatest artists, poets, writers, etc, who have made history thanks to their tremendous imagination and creativity, we often think of tortured souls.  Funny enough, recent studies have shown that happiness breeds creativity more than misery does.  Creative expression probably serves as a catharsis when in pain,  but emotional despair is, according to studies, in no way conducive to creativity.

The reason why creativity is so important is that it can be used in all spheres of life.  Isn't it at the basis of problem-solving?  And, whether at work or at home, who has never been confronted with a problem that needs solving?

Some people believe that they are not creative.  In fact, creativity is within all of us, it is just a matter of finding a way to release it.

Here is a brief summary of Cleese's talk:

First of all, for Cleese, creativity is not a talent.  It is not an ability you have or don't have and it is not related to IQ.  It is a way of operating.

He believes there are two modes of operating: Open and Closed. Obviously, you are creative when you are open.

Closed

In this mode, creativity is not possible.  With everything we have to do, most of us tend to be in this mode most of the time.  The words associated with this mode are active, slightly anxious, impatient, a bit of tension, purposeful.

Open

We are in this mode when we are daydreaming, relaxing.  Words associated with this mode:  relaxed, expansive, contemplative, inclined to humor, playful, curiosity for curiosity sake, not under pressure.

In order to be creative,  you need to be in an open mode. Inversely, you need to be in a closed mode when implementing a solution.

According to Cleese, the problem is that we get stuck in the closed mode.

Specifically, Cleese outlines "the 5 factors that you can arrange to make your lives more creative”:

1) Space : “You can’t become playful, and therefore creative, 

if you’re under your usual pressures.”

2) Time: "It’s not enough to create space; you have to create

your space for a specific period of time.”

3) Time: “Giving your mind as long as possible to come up 

with something original,” and learning to tolerate 

the discomfort of pondering time and indecision.

4) Confidence: “Nothing will stop you being creative

so effectively as the fear of making a mistake.”

5) Humor: “The main evolutionary significance of humor is that

it gets us from the closed mode to the open mode quicker than anything else.”

I have noticed myself that whether I am writing, singing, drawing or doing anything else that requires me to be creative, If I think about it too much or I stress about getting it right, the result is never as good as when I feel relaxed and without any pressure.

And I feel great happiness when I'm being creative... no matter the area of my life involved!  So, taking the means to become more creative and be in a more "open mode" can only be beneficial in a quest for happiness!

Here is a link to Cleese's talk: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VShmtsLhkQg

DAY 366 -INSPIRATIONAL PEOPLE - HUGH MCCOLL, 90 YEARS OLD

Day 366

How do you picture yourself at 90 years old?  Most of us think that at the ripe age of 90, you don't have much energy, you sit around all day and live in an old folks home, waiting to die.  It doesn't have to be that way.  It's often a question of choice.

And it is not the choice that Hugh McColl made.  After retiring,  at the age of 75, this Edmonton resident decided to take up boxing. He fell in love with the sport and has been practicing it ever since.  Last year, he celebrated his 90th birthday by putting on his gloves and stepping into the ring.  

Hugh McColl attributes his longevity to the practice of the sport, stating that it not only keeps him healthy physically, but it also allows him to remain sharp mentally.

The truth is, the image people have of old age influences their behaviour.  Who says you can't be in the best shape of your life later on, at the age of  50, 60, 70 or even 80.  Who says that everybody physically peaks at 25 years old?  There is no age to start making the right choices.

At 50 years old, my friend Gianni started going to the gym regularly and making exercise a part of his life.  Four years later, he is in the best shape he has ever been!  I can vow for it, I've known him for 15 years.  The father of my friend Christina,  John, who had a heart attack last year, recently told me that he hasn't felt this healthy and in shape in years.  After his heart attack, he started exercising.  He works out 3 to 4 times a week, despite the fact that he went through heart surgery and has a pacemaker.

The process of ageing cannot be avoided.  It is a natural part of life.  However, keeping a positive attitude and making the right choices, no matter your age, can make you live longer and happier.  In he end, it always comes down to having a vision, a goal, and working towards achieving it, at 90 as well as at 20.

Here is a link to a report that was done on Hugh McColl in the Edmonton Sun.  The video is worth watching: http://www.edmontonsun.com/2011/05/18/90yearold-boxer-still-going-strong

DAY 365 - ORLANDO - THE HAPPIEST PLACE ON EARTH

Day 365

When our plane landed in Orlando, the flight attendant said: "Ladies and Gentlemen, welcome to Orlando, the happiest place on earth." As you know, happiness is a topic that greatly interests me so I was more than ready to analyze and experience what happiness meant in this man made fantasy world.

I went to Orlando for four days with my kids, Christina and her kids, without our husbands who had to stay back and work.  We had been planning to go to Walt Disney for the past three years.  And we finally did it!

We didn't want to spend the four full days we were there visiting the Walt Disney Parks.  We decided that we would go on the first two days and stay by the pool on the last two.

Everything worked out as we planned.  And we discovered that magic at Walt Disney really exists!  For the two days we visited the parks, we felt we were on a constant high, discovering a new unbelievable ride or attraction every step we made.  Christina had insisted on hiring a tour guide.  And I'm happy she did.  It was a great decision.  It made us save a lot of time, so we got to see more of the parks.  The children were as happy as can be, appreciating and being thankful for everything we were doing for them.  They were real troopers, never complaining about any of our decisions, their eyes sparkling with wonder and amazement! They were really excited, enthusiastic and happy!

My critical eye, however, saw things that left me with a little bitter taste.  When you see the amount of money spent at Walt Disney and the amount of waste created by it, you have to wonder!!!!!  Every time you come out of a ride, you go through a store full of little characters and memorabilia.   It's consumerism at it's best! And it was a little disturbing to me.  In fact, the only time I got upset at my kids is when I told them they could choose one item to buy.  My youngest daughter couldn't choose.  She wanted everything and felt disappointed that she could only choose one single thing!

Nevertheless, our time spent there was enjoyable.  When I was 10 years old, I had gone to Walt Disney, so for me going there also meant reliving a part of my own childhood.  And I did.  I saw myself through my children experiencing the magic for the first time.

But the question is: "Is Orlando really the happiest place on earth?"  Well, it is a place where you can have FUN and create MEMORIES and really live in the PRESENT moment and those elements can definitely be part of a quest for HAPPINESS.  Is it the happiest place on earth?  Well, I have my doubts...  Whether you're at Walt Disney or anywhere else, you are always stuck within yourself perceiving  the world. In the end, where you are never really matters!   

DAY 364 - FIGHTING THE WINTER BLUES ONCE AGAIN

DAY 364

It's that time of year again.  The routine has settled in, the sun is becoming less and less present and the cold weather is slowly creeping in. In order to remain healthy both physically and emotionally throughout this period, it is essential to find ways to keep the spirit up and the "blues" at bay.    I have blogged many times about the things one could do, take, eat and avoid to maximize happiness.  Those daily choices become even more important during this time of year...

What to do...

- Exercise - Not enough could be said about the benefits of exercise.  It releases endorphins,serotonin and dopamine in the brain which will help you feel calmer, happier and sleep better. 

- Meditate - Take 5, 10 or 15 minutes to empty your mind at the beginning and/or at the end of the day.  It might be hard at the beginning, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes.

- Practise yoga - There is a good reason why practising yoga is becoming so popular.  This ancient practice helps develop flexibility and strength while promoting self-awareness, calmness and reducing stress!

What to avoid...

- Avoid sugar, coffee and sodas - They might momentarily boost your energy level, but the surge will  inevitably be followed by a crash of energy that can impact your mood.

- Avoid the couch potato syndrome - Sitting on your sofa to watch t.v or being in front of a computer screen facebooking might sound like an appealing option for the winter (who wants to go out when it's 20 below 0?!!!!),   but inactivity will actually deplete you of your energy!!!!

What to take...

-Eat lots of fruit and vegetables.  They contain vitamins that will boost your immune system and help you fight the winter 'bugs', which could in turn affect your energy levels and your mood.

- Incorporate protein in your meals - The addition of healthy lean protein such as skinless poultry, seafood, round or loin cuts of red meat, tofu, quinoa, eggs, and low-fat dairy, will help slow the absorption of carbohydrate in the blood. Furthermore, dopamine and norepinephrine are released after eating protein, making you feel more alert and focused for hours after eating.

- Boost your intake of Omega-3's -

Food rich in omega-3 fatty acids can be mood-lifting: salmon, Atlantic mackerel and sardines, ground flaxseeds, walnuts, canola oil, soy nuts and omega-3 fortified eggs.

- Get your B-vitamins  - Folate and vitamin B12 may influence mood by playing a role in serotonin production. Studies have shown that low blood levels of these vitamins are sometimes related to depression.

Food rich in folate: fortified whole grain breakfast cereals, lentils, black eyes peas, soybeans, oatmeal, mustard greens, beets, broccoli, sunflower seeds, wheat germ and oranges, almonds.

Food rich in vitamin B12:shellfish, wild salmon (fresh or canned), fortified whole grain breakfast cereal, lean beef, low-fat dairy, and eggs.

- Get your vitamin D

Found in the sun, Vitamin D releases serotonin in the brain and acts as a mood-booster. It also boosts your immune system.  Because there is less exposure to the sun in winter, it might be a good idea to take a Vitamin D supplement.

Finally, be creative, kind, grateful... and most of all try to  ENJOY IT... Winter will be over sooner than you think!!!!

DAY 363 - WHAT IS YOUR PERSONAL BEST?

Day 363

During our summer holiday, we went to Cape Cod, Massachussetts, to visit some friends who had rented a house there for a month.  We stayed for five days and had the chance to reconnect with our friends and have great conversations on education, spirituality and life in general.  They have five beautiful daughters between the ages of 3 and 11years old, so their life is even more hectic than ours.

As I was having a conversation with the husband in the couple, he said something that I thought was very simple but valuable for anyone looking to improve their life.  He said that at the end of each day, he looks back and evaluates if during the course of the day he was the best that he could be.

If happiness is about accumulating positive experiences and making the right choices, then insuring that you are the best that you could be on a daily basis could only lead to an increase in your overall well being.  

This doesn't mean beating yourself up at the end of the day for not keeping up with your idea of a perfect day.  It only means taking the time to evaluate the good and bad choices that you've made and, at the same time, keeping track of the things you want to do to improve your daily life and your level of happiness.

The best you can be obviously depends on your individual values and circumstances as well as the goals you have set for yourself.  In my case, it means, eating healthy, exercising, living in the present, being creative in some way, being kind, thoughtful and patient with my children, my husband, my family and my friends, having the feeling that I have accomplished something, giving to others, meditating, etc.  

There are so many aspects of our circumstances that we have no control over, it only makes sense that with the aspects of our lives we do have control over, we maximize our chances of being happy by relentlessly making the right choices on a daily basis.

"Remember that the most difficult tasks are consummated, not by a single explosive burst of energy or effort, but by the constant daily application of the best you have within you." 

Og Mandino

DAY 362- THE JOY OF ENDING 25 YEARS OF PROCRASTINATION

Day 362

This week, after 25 years of procrastination, I finally began a drawing class with my friend Donna.  Let me first tell you that getting to that class on Thursday nights requires a great deal of determination on my part.  I first have to go home (I arrive at about 4:30pm) , prepare dinner for my children and make sure they do their homework.  Then, I have to bring them to their gymnastics class for 5:30 (in the north part of town during rush hour) and, afterwards, go all the way downtown (which is in the south part of town) for my three-hour class....

So obviously this week I was a little late to class, and my teacher reprimanded me (Give me a break!)... When I arrived, students were introducing themselves.  I have always hated that part of a class.  "Hi, my name is Janet and I'm here because I would like to add color to my life". PLEASE!!!!The funny thing is, I never remember anybody's name, what they do, etc.  But I guess it's a convention, and all teachers do it!

I was really excited to begin, ready to take on the world and draw it!  "For your first exercise, come closer", the teacher said.  Excitedly I thought: "Here it comes....my first drawing exercise!" " This is how you sharpen a pencil with an exacto knife", she explained.  I thought she was kidding!  Sharpen a pencil! You mean I waited 25 years to learn how to sharpen a pencil!

This being said, there were wonderful moments throughout the class when I felt completely absorbed, or as Mihaly Czikszentmihalyi would call it, in a state of flow.  All right, so maybe my expectations were a little high.  After 25 years of waiting, maybe I romanticized what a  drawing class would be like.  And maybe I won't become a great artist after this class, but no matter what I am going to learn, I know that for three hours in the week, I will be able to forget about time, problems, worries and really live the moment!

And how about you?  Is there something you have been procrastinating about for a long time?????

DAY 361 - BACK TO THE SAME OLD ROUTINE

Day 361

I always dread going back to work.  I really enjoy the summer and the freedom I have during that time of year.  However, through the years, I've come to realize that I'm never really able to be productive in the summer. At the end of the schoolyear, I often have a list of projects I intend to pursue during the summer, but somehow I never seem to be able to schedule them into my busy days (pool, bicycle, excursion, etc.).  Perhaps, it's because I have so many obligations during the year, so that in the summer I become allergic to 'have-tos'.  All I know is that I often get the feeling at the end of the summer that I didn't have the time to do half the things I intended to do!

Inversely, although I find it difficult to go back to having a routine, I feel that when I do, I'm able to accomplish so much more.  And, at the end of the day, I'm generally left with a feeling of genuine satisfaction.  All right, so I don't necessarily enjoy every single moment of the day and maybe I'm not in the best of moods at all times (ask my husband and children), but I'm being productive and, in a global sense, it gives me a sense of purpose.

Many people wish to win millions of dollars to gain the freedom to do whatever they want with their lives (stop working, travel more, etc.).  I believe that no matter how much money you have, you need a purpose, a reason to wake up in the morning and go on with your day, a sense that you're somehow contributing to society.  That's why people planning your  retirement is so important.  Many people dream of the day they will stop working, but then, when they do, they feel a void in their life.  I love my summer holidays... I love waking up in the morning when I want, with no plan in mind...  I love being able to enjoy my freedom... But my life could never only be about that!

DAY 360 - SUMMERTIME... AND THE LIVING IS EASY

Day 360

Like many people, summer is my favorite time of year.  It probably has to do with the fact that I need a lot of freedom and winter is restrictive in many ways. In winter, when you go out,  you need to put on layers of clothes which restrain your movements. You can't enjoy your morning coffee and meals  outdoor.... But what I enjoy the most about summer, since I'm completely off work, is not having a tight schedule, trying to fit in work, chores, kids homework and activities, etc, in one short day.   

However, I must admit, I probably don't enjoy summer as much as I should.  

Yesterday,  I was talking with my brother's neighbor who is also a teacher.  She was complaining about the fact that we only have three weeks left of vacation.  I had obviously been thinking about the same thing, feeling very guilty about my spoiled attitude: most people only get two weeks off in the summer.  As teachers, we are so privileged...

It made me think about human nature.  It seems like no matter what we have, we always want more.  I have nine weeks of vacation each summer.  Comparatively speaking, it's amazing!!!!! I get to spend time with my kids doing activities, going on vacation,etc.,  all summer long.  However, somehow, I'm already apprehensively looking at time go by,  slightly complaining about the fact that I'm going back to a scheduled routine.

I certainly make a point of being thankful for what I have.  But although theoretically I can name all the things I am grateful for, I find it very challenging to always FEEL how privileged I am.  

I guess we all have a baseline of expectations, depending on our current situation and, although it is possible to intellectually conceptualize what it's like not to have what we have, it is very hard to internalize something you haven't experienced. I have never had only two weeks off in the summer!

This being said, I am still very happy about the summer I am having. And I know I am fortunate to be able to spend so much time with my family.  It leaves me little time to write,  but happiness is also about living life not only writing about it!

DAY 359 - THE MOVE

DAY 359

Living room

So what has happiness been in the last few months.... I think, first of all, I have discovered a love for decoration... I have truly enjoyed trying to create a beautiful and welcoming home.  I realized how, through time, my taste has evolved.  

When we first moved into our previous house, we loved antiques. Therefore, whether it was an antique or not, all our furniture had an old looking style.  Our walls were painted in yellow and orange colors.  All our decor was done in bright, vivid tones.  We moved there in our early thirties... we were building our life, we needed energy...

Now, we are middle-aged (god that sounds so awful!).  We need to slow down time.  We feel like we are always running.  So, in our new house, we chose relaxing, zen colors.  The decor is modern.  The lines are pure.  We don't have anything hanging on the walls yet.. and my husband and I both like it that way! We're so busy, we don't want our house to feel busy.  We wanted to create a calming, appeasing atmosphere and I think we have succeeded in doing so.

It was heart-wrenching for me to leave my old house.  I felt like I was leaving behind a period of my life - the house where my children were born, where they took their first steps.  When I left, after the movers had taken all of our belongings, I went into my car alone and cried. I felt sad, nostalgic. I was mourning the passing of time.

But, as we all know, the end of something is the beginning of something new.  As soon as I arrived to our new house, and the movers started to unload the truck, I had already turned the page. And today, although I still have moments of nostalgia, when I am in my new house, I feel happy!  I feel like I have been renewed.  I feel like a new wonderful period of my life has begun.

DAY 358 - THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE!

Day 358

I've now been thinking about happiness for almost 2 years.  I know so much more about it in a theoretical sense.  I know what I need to do in order to be happy.... Do I always apply my knowledge?  Well, not always but certainly more than before.  One of the things I've realized is that life has to be lived in the simplest way in order to be joyful.  No need for a luxurious cruise on the Nile or a safari in Kenya (which I would do any time if I had the opportunity).   But, there are cheaper ways to find happiness!

Today, one of my Facebook friends posted this image on her wall.

It reminded me of the simple things I need to include in my everyday life in order to make it better:

Hugs and kisses - You never give or receive enough of them.  They always feel good and, physiologically speaking, they never fail to make you feel happy.

Smiles - Smiling can help trigger a moment of joy in your life and into other people's lives.  And as Thich Nhat Hanh wrote, “Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.”

Friends and family - It has been proven over and over again people with strong and broad social relationships are happier, healthier and live longer.

Love - I will just repeat what George Sand, female French writer, said: "There is only one happiness in life: to love and be loved".

Sleep - How can you be happy if you feel exhausted?  Sleeping well helps you think clearly, be in a better mood (I know I'm very crabby when I'm sleep deprived) and obviously have energy to do all the things you love to do.

Good memories - Good memories are created daily.  Making sure you have happy moments every day of your life forces you to live in the present as well as create a bank of memories that could increase your happiness later on.

Being happy doesn't mean having everything you've ever wanted.  It means appreciating and using everything that is accessible to you to create the conditions that are conducive to happiness.

Have a happy day!!!!

DAY 357 - FINDING PURPOSE IN LIFE

Day 357

I've already established that finding a purpose to life is essential when it comes to happiness.  How can you be happy if you have no idea why you're doing what you're doing? Although this makes total sense, I have gone through phases where I wondered if THAT is it, if  THAT's all there is to life.

But then again, something deep inside me tells me that life cannot only be about going through your everyday routine, impatiently waiting for the weekend to socialize with your family and friends.  There has to be a deeper meaning. And for each of us, it's a different one.  It's just a matter of discovering what it is. Many sites on internet offer you ways to find out your purpose in life.  That's because so many people feel lost, trapped in a perpetual fast-speed, goal-oriented world.  And when they stop to try to make sense of it all, they cannot.

We're here, on earth,  for a very short period of time and whether you believe there is life after death or not, whether you believe in God or not, what really matters is trying to find out meaning to your life so that you can be happy and start doing what you were meant to do.

A friend of mine recently went through some kind of midlife crisis.  During one of our conversations, she pinpointed what I saw as being one of the ways to find out the purpose of your life.  She asked me if I had ever thought of what I would be remembered for after I die, what my legacy would be.

It made me think that life's purpose is about digging into your most profound being and finding out who you are, including your values and your talents, in order to make the right choices and insuring that what you're remembered for is an accurate representation of who you were.

And to really give your life purpose, your talents, abilities and values should be put in the service of others.  Nobody lives in a bubble, we are all interconnected.   And your legacy is not about you, it's about the people whose lives were somehow bettered thanks to you.

DAY 356 - IT'S A FAMILY AFFAIR...

Day 356

Last weekend, we had a big family reunion.  All my aunts, cousins and their children were present.  We hadn't had such a family gathering in more than 5 years, so I was really excited and happy about seing everyone.

Molokhia

As you can imagine, being Mediterranean, food was a the center of the event.  My mother prepared her famous Molokhia, an Egyptian traditional dish, while my aunt baked her delicious Basboussa, an Egyptian dessert made with semolina.

As I always do, at a certain moment during the evening, I sat back and observed.  Everyone was talking, trying to catch up on lost time.  It all felt so familiar.  Although, we hadn't seen one another in years, it took very little time to reconnect. 

It was interesting to see how everyone had aged.  Life definitely leaves an inprint on people's faces, and sadness as well as happiness somehow finds its way into the wrinkles. 

Looking at everyone reminded me once again of how important it is to work on making happiness-inducing decisions in life...  It is so easy to lose focus and get stuck in a less-than-stimulating routine. Making every day count is not easy, but worthwhile.

We all left the party feeling very happy to have spent time together.  For a few hours, we all escaped our routine and reconnected with people we love.  It was simple, fun and it brought joy to so many of us... Maybe happiness is not as complicated as we think!

DAY 355 -I'M BACK

DAY 355

I haven't been writing for four months.  I can't believe how time flies.  At first, I believed I would be able to only write once in a while.  That's because I didn't foresee what was going to happen to me.    

Yes, I was busy packing boxes, buying fixtures, curtains and furniture for the new house, making sure the renovations were progressing as planned, taking care of my children, etc.  Yes, I didn't have much time to write.

But, it's not only the fact that I was physically busy trying to accomplish so much...  It's as though I didn't have any mental space left.  It's as though all my brain space was taken up by the project I was involved in.  I couldn't write the thoughts I was having about my experience because I was immersed in the present moment, swimming as fast as I could in order to try to get to shore on time.

Renovations and moving are said to be amongst the most stressful events in life... I was doing both... and in the middle of the school year on top it.

I often had thoughts about what I was experiencing.  But I couldn't imagine taking the time to write them down.  I had to focus on the task at hand and move forward.  Only now do I feel like I'm ready to analyze what I have experienced in the last few months and share once again my thoughts on happiness.

Am I going to have the same discipline I used to have?  Maybe not.  But I do know I will reach my destination of 500 days, no matter how long it takes me to get there.

DAY 354 - GUILT, GUILT, GO AWAY, COME AGAIN SOME OTHER DAY!

Day 354

I didn't write a post yesterday and felt very guilty about it. I have been very disciplined about writing, so I felt like I was letting myself down as well as my readers. Sometimes, we put so much pressure on ourselves!  It's not that I didn't want to write, but I really didn't have time.  And I know that in the next couple of months, life will get busier and busier. 

Between renovating my new house (renovations began yesterday), packing for the move, working at the school, housework and taking care of my children, spare time will surely become scarce.

It made me think that the primary goal of my 500-days-to-happiness journey is to discover and experience happiness.  In that sense, self-inflicted guilt is somewhat counterproductive.  I need to accept the fact that for two months or so, it will be harder for me to be as consistent with my writing as I have been in the last year and a half. 

Writing brings me so much happiness.  All alone in front of my computer, I love to research, reflect and take the time to express my thoughts.  I become submerged in  my own little bubble and I truly enjoy it.

However, I know that temporarily, I might not have as much time to indulge in it.  I need to prioritize and focus on what needs to be done (boxes, renovations and obviously, taking care of my children).  We are moving in less than a month and a half and I have so much to do  until then.

So, no more guilt feelings!!!!  They're not going to lead me anywhere.  I'll do what I can to continue writing, but when it is not possible, I won't.  And I know, that sooner than later, I'll have moved into my new home and no longer feel as overwhelmed as I do now!