High expectations in any area of your life can potentially lead to disappointment. It doesn’t mean you have to be pessimistic or negative. It simply implies that you need to adopt a realistic standpoint when it comes to things that are beyond your control.
Having a preconceived image of how you want things to turn out is quite natural. One of the best examples of that is when you give birth to your first child. Initially, you imagine that the little bundle of joy you’re about to bring to life, will only bring you happiness. Throughout your pregnancy, you imagine yourself nurturing and loving that little cheeky baby. In that scenario, you’re rocking your baby who’s peacefully sleeping in your arms.
When you finally give birth, you’re shocked and after one week of sleepless nights, diaper changing, nipple compresses and crying fits from your baby, your vision of motherhood is completely transformed. If I had had a realistic image of the beginnings of motherhood, maybe I wouldn’t have found it so hard. I had very high expectations.
Lowering your expectations does not mean giving up your ambitions. Having goals and being optimistic about reaching them is essential. But at the same time, you have to be prepared for things to turn out differently than what you had planned. No only will it help alleviate the feelings of disappointment, but it will also allow you to adapt more easily to the new situation and find solutions to any hurdle that comes your way.
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